It’s easy to admit that a lot of music out there is “catchy.” After all, being catchy is what makes a lot of music popular, but are you mindlessly singing melodies that overtly disrespect women? It’s all in good fun isn’t it? It’s JUST music.. or is it?
I’ve been listening to Usher since I was a teenager. Who remembers the song “Yeah!” or “U Remind Me” and “U Got it Bad?” Those songs bring back so many memories. Things have changed. I am ashamed of Usher. I change the station if I hear his new song “I Don’t Mind” come on the radio, especially if my three year old daughter is in the car! The first time I heard it I thought “Wow, another new guy on the music scene disrespecting women.” I had NO idea it was Usher.
Let’s take a look at the lyrics shall we?
“Shawty, I don’t mind If you dance on a pole
That don’t make you a ho
Shawty, I don’t mind when you work until three
If you’re leaving with me
Go make that money, money, money
Your money, money, money
Cause I know how it is, go and handle your biz
And get that money, money, money
Your money, money, money
You can take off your clothes
Long as you coming home, girl, I don’t mind”
Seriously? it’s laughable. Without taking a closer look at the lyrics it’s just another really catchy song and I find myself singing along to the “money money money” part but let’s be honest everyone, and if this is offensive to you because you are in the adult entertainment profession, I am surprised because typically in order to survive in that world you need to have VERY THICK SKIN. Thick skin will come in handy right about now because I won’t apologize to you.
I have heard all the excuses that people come up with to justify taking off your clothes for money and not one of them has ever sat well with me. I think I am sexy. I love the human body, both women’s and men’s bodies are a work of art and I actually take pole fitness classes because it’s an amazing workout but if my daughter asked me what I would want for her future, I would never tell her “you should become a stripper.” Nevertheless an attractive, well known, talented man is telling women just that! He’s saying “it’s okay to compromise your integrity, self worth, self respect and your future.” I don’t think it’s okay. I think it’s sad. Sure, adult entertainers are known to make great money but how long can you shake your ass in front of people who want to look at it and pay you to do it?
This song portrays being a stripper as the equivalent to being a celebrity when it says “Got all of these niggas they crowding around you like they seen Beyonce in here.” Wow. Beyonce? That’s a stretch. Beyonce is classy, tasteful and talented beyond her looks and how well she can shake that Bootylicious backside!
Men, is what Usher is saying true? Do men not mind if a women they are “going home with” is taking her clothes off for other men? Where have people’s standards gone? Stripping isn’t going anywhere in this oversexed culture of ours but music like this is going somewhere, at least in my world, it’s going into the “DO NOT PLAY” list I reserve in my mind. My innocent daughter has enough to worry about and so do I. Like always, I encourage you to think! Think about what you are saying when you sing these words and think about what this song means. Change your mind, just because something is popular doesn’t mean that it is right and you don’t have to follow the crowd. You CAN think for yourself.
I don’t think shielding my daughter from the realities of this world is realistic, so she will be informed about what a stripper does when the time is right but until then, these lyrics will stay off the lips I kiss her rosy cheeks with.